Personal Growth

“If you don’t define yourself, someone else will. One of the best and most important ways to manage or resolve conflicts within is by firt knowing who you are, where you stand, and to whom you belong. I call this self-identification… Ask yourself, What wreckage in my life must be cleared? Is it the bitterness of my divorce or the death of my soulmate? Is my debris covered with wrong decisions that led to unintended outcomes? Could my refusal to forgive have done more damage to me than to the person I resent and refuse to set free? Am I still holding on to past betrayals that hinder my ability to express and receive love? In every new relationship, do I bring with me unhealthy emotional baggage and wounds from my past? If your wreckage continues to define you, your desire to create and maintain a healthy atmosphere for productive change will be hindered, producing more unanswered questions. Questions like: Why can’t I reorganize my life and move beyond the devastation of my divorce? Why can’t I shift power struggles to cooperative problem-solving? If your questions are not understood, confronted, properly managed, or resolved, your past will continue to dictate your present and fill your future with many more questions and uncertainties. Instead of managing or mastering conflict, the conflict will manage or master you.”